Just not saying man is fallen, will not change reality.
“How can a gracious/loving God send people to hell?”
That question is based in arrogance and the allusion that the questioner is actually relating to grace. Since arrogance cannot fathom grace, that’s impertinence.
The question that is more appropriate, since the questioner relates well to judgement, is: “How can a perfect and holy God countenance any human?”
Only in addressing the despicable state of man and the wrath in store can we see the depth of grace given in Jesus. He has given Himself to be our perfection and holiness.
Grace is a gift received. A gift that wells up and asks to be given again.